I wrote about Weddings, Finances and Your Kids not so long ago, and now that the second of our two daughters has concluded her nuptials (last night!), I thought I would check back in with some of the takeaways from these experiences.
As I mentioned in that post, we gave our daughters the money that we planned to spend on each of their weddings, and the choices that went along with that gift. No strings were attached, other than that we expected to be there to see them wed.
Our daughters are very different women, but some of their choices were quite similar, including the most important one. They both chose spouses who cherish them, make them laugh, and make them want to be better people. These are men of high intelligence, integrity, and character…hmm, a bit like their Dad!
Dani and Jason chose hunter green and gold for their fall wedding in Nashville, and Devin and Charlie chose emerald green and daffodil yellow for their spring wedding in Austin. Both couples made excellent food, drink, and energetic dance party receptions features of their weddings, and they both chose to exchange personal vows with their spouses.
There was not a dry eye in the house at either wedding as each couple declared their love and committed their lives to each other in front of family and friends.
Both couples chose to spend money on memories. Photographer and Videographer were top-line items in their budgets after the venue and refreshments.
After all, over thirty years later, Dan and I no longer remember all the tiny moments or even some of the people who were at our wedding, but pictures are forever.
Both couples invested in fun photo booths that encouraged their guests to loosen up and have a great time, and Devin and Charlie even had a “pop shot” basketball set up for all of the “hoopsters” in his group of friends who came from all over the country to celebrate his wedding.
Both couples invested in a “month of” coordinator who worked behind the scenes to make everything run smoothly, and as busy professionals, this was a very wise choice.
Each feature of their weddings was carefully chosen by them, to be meaningful and make their guests feel welcome and appreciated. Dan and I could not be prouder, and we had a marvelous time while relishing the additional joy of gaining two awesome sons and their lovely families.
So, was this financial decision successful?
We think so. There were no meltdowns, no major mishaps, and virtually no family drama. Each of our daughters got a dream wedding and they did not have to run anything by anyone except their future husbands. We think this bodes well for their future as partners in life.
Thanks for inviting us to the parties, kids! We had a blast!