On my wedding day, I asked my father-in-law, a highly respected salesman, motivational speaker and the most charming person I have ever known, how he and his wife had stayed so happily and romantically married for so many years. He considered and said he only had one piece of advice after all that time together, “Never call each other names. You can never take them back.” Continue reading
A paradigm is a typical pattern or world view. A paradigm shift is a change from one way of thinking to another…a revolution, even a metamorphosis.
Dr. Stephen Covey has an excellent example in his book, “7 Habits of Highly Effective People.” He writes that he was “traveling in a subway, a man gets in with his two sons, the sons are running all over the place bothering the people, this continues, so he finally gets irritated enough to ask the father why he doesn’t do something to control his kids. The father replies, “We just got back from the hospital where their mother died. I don’t know how to handle it and I guess they don’t either.”
Suddenly you see the everything differently and that is the incredible power of a paradigm shift. Those are the same kids yelling and screaming in the subway, but you look at them and understand them in a different way.
When we seek to understand our children’s point of view, we often experience paradigm shifts.