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Will all children experiment with profanity? Probably. Some are better at applying a parental censor chip than others but trust me, that is just a juicy bowl of noodles waiting to be gobbled up and evaluated by your budding adolescent.
Our wake up call came when Daughter 1 came home from school one day, cocked her curly blonde head to the side, and asked, “Mommy, what are all of the bad words?”
My first thought (after the shock that she was even asking about them) was, “Yeah, right…like I am going to give you a punch list of profanity? I don’t think so!” I asked her why she needed to know. She said, “Well, the boys on the bus are saying a lot of words I think are bad but I don’t know for sure, and I don’t know what makes a bad word.”
She had an excellent point. We had not actually explained profanity or inappropriate words to our children yet.
I swore from time to time when I was younger and was cured of most of that by two things. First, when I was dating my husband, he casually mentioned that people who swear generally lack the imagination or intelligence to think of something better to say. Ouch! Second, when I had children I became even more aware of what was coming out of my mouth, and that little ears were recording it for life, whether consciously or subconsciously.
I carefully explained that “No, I would not give her a list of bad words.” Continue reading