Social Media Boundaries for Parents

Smartphone and the world

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Andrew Watts’ recent article; “A Teenager’s View on Social Media” was on point, and although he is clear that these are only his opinions, much of what he says rings true to me as I watch my daughters navigate through social media.

He points out that social media has become segregated, even though he doesn’t express it with that term. Continue reading

Tech Time for Your Kids!

Daughter on celll phone ignoring her motherTechnology is a part of our lives in a way never envisioned by our parents and it will be a part of our children’s lives in ways never envisioned by us. Continue reading

Internet Interventions – When Someone is Suicidal

sad girlNOTE: Although this post will remain on Kali’s Musings, it has been reproduced and future BMS posts will appear on A Burning Journey. Please check it out if you are interested in more about Burning Mouth Syndrome.

I have been active on a Facebook Closed Support Group page for Burning Mouth Syndrome sufferers. It is a positive experience most of the time, but occasionally things take a turn for the worse, and I see people posting suicidal thoughts and deep despair.

Their fellow members jump in and try to help, but it is incredibly difficult to ascertain whether the original poster is truly in a dangerous state of mind, or whether they are just despairing that day, and have opted to put that feeling in a public place. (The page has nearly 500 members from around the world and seems to be growing daily – if you are a BMS sufferer, put Burning Mouth Syndrome (BMS) into the Facebook search and ask to join if you are interested.)

I started thinking about what we should do with information like this on the Internet. How can we intervene constructively?

In the parenting world, we are taught that when someone makes a suicidal statement, you take it seriously. If you are wise, you even prepare that emotional construct by telling your children or other family members that if they ever say something like that, you will take it seriously, and you will get them help.

If a friend made that statement to me, I would make sure that they got to their doctor, and not tomorrow, but today.

But on the Internet, it is a different ball game. You don’t know these people at all, and anything you say may be misinterpreted as criticism or disapproval. (Two things we try to avoid in a support group!) Continue reading

Your “After Death Image” in Social Media

older couple on computerI bet you didn’t even know you had one, but really, we have always had an “after death image.”

It exists in the obituary that runs in the local paper, the eulogy at the funeral, memorial or celebration of life, and of course it always resides in the memories of those who loved you and those who merely knew you.

It also exists in your social media, if you have any. Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Pinterest…and many more, but today let’s talk about Facebook since it is most likely to have your very personal “after death image” embedded in its photos and timeline.

What do you want to happen to your Facebook account after you die? Have you thought about it or discussed it with your loved ones?

There are a couple of ways this can go: Continue reading