“Anger can be grief unexpressed.”
I read that somewhere recently and thought, “Wow, I never really thought about it that way.” I knew that anger is often linked to fear, but didn’t intuitively link it to grief. Most of us know that anger is a stage of grieving before you reach acceptance, but what if you or a friend or family member simply gets stuck there. Is there an appropriate time limit to mourning?
The answer is no.
I recently saw a lovely video about helping your grieving loved ones and knew I had to share it with you.
Check it out at Refuge in Grief’s video: How to Help a Grieving Friend. There are Spanish and English subtitles you can choose if you need them, and it was a brief and lovely way to convey some very important information.
If I were grieving, I would hope that the person trying to comfort me had seen this video, and if I was comforting someone, I would be glad I had seen it.
Take a moment and check out the awesome power of acknowledgment. It will feel awkward at first; I won’t kid you about that, but it really can help that person you love or care about.
Let things hurt and acknowledge that it hurts instead of trying to fix it, cure it, or argue those you love into happiness.
You can do it, and so can I…so let’s make a choice to handle pain, grief, and sadness differently and start today.