Social Media Boundaries for Parents

Smartphone and the world

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Andrew Watts’ recent article; “A Teenager’s View on Social Media” was on point, and although he is clear that these are only his opinions, much of what he says rings true to me as I watch my daughters navigate through social media.

He points out that social media has become segregated, even though he doesn’t express it with that term. Continue reading

Your “After Death Image” in Social Media

older couple on computerI bet you didn’t even know you had one, but really, we have always had an “after death image.”

It exists in the obituary that runs in the local paper, the eulogy at the funeral, memorial or celebration of life, and of course it always resides in the memories of those who loved you and those who merely knew you.

It also exists in your social media, if you have any. Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Pinterest…and many more, but today let’s talk about Facebook since it is most likely to have your very personal “after death image” embedded in its photos and timeline.

What do you want to happen to your Facebook account after you die? Have you thought about it or discussed it with your loved ones?

There are a couple of ways this can go: Continue reading

Social Media – Serious Business for Your Kids

Kali' teaching social media basics

Kali’ teaching social media basics – 2014

I took a class in Social Media for Nonprofits and learned more about this relatively new addition to our communication landscape. I picked up great tips for helping my nonprofits, but along the way I also learned some things that I will pass on to you for yourself, or perhaps more importantly to you; your job seeking children.

You see, social media is replacing many things that we grew up with and took for granted. You can picture Facebook replacing directories and school yearbooks…Twitter replacing phone calls…and LinkedIn and personal blogs replacing resumes in job searches.

That last one is very important.

I became aware of the importance of Linked In and personal blogs earlier this year, as my husband sought new employment after a lay off from his job of 13 years. He is tech savvy and reached out to experts in the field and to his personal network, which he methodically updated and renewed. As he put it so well, he had “become internally focused after being with a remote corporate office company for so long.” He realized that he had to reactivate his persona as an authority in his area and make sure that people who could help knew that he was looking.

He updated and kept adding to his blog, High Integrity Support.

He also assessed his connections on LinkedIn, asked for introductions to people in his field or that he felt would be a source of information and expertise about Austin’s high-tech employment market.

He was careful to ask for the expertise and advice of these busy people, rather than a job.

Trust me, if you invest the time and attention to people in this manner, you will foster a relationship that may be very beneficial to you. If you come in just asking for a job, or a referral to a job, you may nip that blossoming relationship in the bud. I recently heard a speaker describe active listening and asking the right (and often unusual) questions as “The Ripple Effect.” You can read more about Steve Harper and his rippling techniques in his blog. Continue reading