You Can Sit By Me

Sullen GirlOur daughters are both working and learning the hidden lessons of the professional workplace.

Interestingly, sometimes it still resembles high school.

There are the adults who take their job seriously, consider it a calling and have the foresight to encourage and train the future of their professions…and there are those who don’t. Continue reading

The Price We Pay as Women

I recently joined a story circle. I heard about them through my Facebook friendship with Susan Wittig Albert. (If you haven’t read her China Bayles mystery series, you are missing out!) I am not sure yet exactly how this will fit into my very busy life right now, but I have derived so many benefits from writing this blog and expressing myself, it seemed a logical thing to do.

China Doll

image courtesy of Trey Ratcliff-

A recent story prompt they provided was a quote from Shirley Abbott. She said, “Everybody must learn this lesson somewhere—that it costs something to be what you are.” 

I believe this to be true, particularly for women. We pay a price to be what we choose to be. We have grown up assuming it is part of the “ovary package” we have been blessed with, and there is no changing the status quo. Whether we are focused, career women who give up the notion of having children in favor of success, or a women who give up the notion of having a successful career to be a full-time mother and wife…we pay a price for our choices unless we are one of the very lucky few who manage (or at least seem to manage) to have it all.

I read in the local paper today that women still make much less than men for the very same qualifications and job. Over time the gap becomes hideous, both in earnings and in the subsequent social security benefits women often depend on in old age. It made me so angry to think of my bright and talented daughters who will likely be handicapped in the same ways when they enter the work force. The article even calculated the price my daughters will pay in decreased wages and eventual retirement income for each child they decide to bring into the world. I find this situation appalling, and I hope you do, too.

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Prejudice, Racism and Kids

Baby FacePrejudice.  Racism.  Ugly words, aren’t they?

Webster’s defines racism as “a belief or doctrine that inherent differences among the various human races determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one’s own race is superior and has the right to rule others.”

Prejudice is “an unfavorable opinion or feeling formed beforehand or without knowledge, thought, or reason.” Most of us would like to think that we are not prejudiced and this post will deal with that belief, the truth, and what we can do to control these “unfavorable opinions or feelings.”

We also think that our new little bundles of joy, arriving in the world so innocent and untouched, couldn’t possibly be prejudiced…could they?

Yes, they most certainly can. If you consider that prejudice can be an inherent reaction to the strange or different, then certainly your small child can react accordingly.

Does this reasoning apply to racism? No.

Racism is a learned belief, and if you are parents who are consciously teaching your children to be racist, there is nothing here for you.

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